What should you avoid doing on a date to avoid making a negative impression on your date?
You go on dates regularly, but despite all your attempts to make a favorable impression on your new acquaintance and show yourself in the best light, you encounter failure time after time. You don't understand what you're doing wrong, and you feel frustrated and confused because you think you don't know how to flirt.
The results of a study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences may help you realize your mistakes. The authors surveyed over 200 men and women, asking them to name the behaviors and personality traits that give them a bad impression in the context of flirting.
As a result, 69 factors were identified that hinder success on a date. Twenty-two of them made it onto the list of the most off-putting. Here's what the respondents said (do the opposite and you'll be irresistible!):
- “Using vulgar, rude, or profane language with new acquaintances”;
- “On a first date, he/she drinks, eats, and/or smokes too much”;
- “He/she lacks good manners and vocabulary”;
- “The person seems dull — a look that shows low intelligence, stupid or ridiculous comments, and so on”;
- “Behaves tactlessly, gets too close when talking, touches without consent, violates physical boundaries”;
- “Unattractive appearance of a new acquaintance, and this applies not only to the face, figure, or gait, but also to clothing — untidiness, unfashionability, lack of style, overly revealing clothing, etc.”;
- “Excessive aggressiveness, unrestrained behavior”;
- “The new acquaintance is simply boring, too ordinary, mediocre”;
- “Narcissism — a person only talks about themselves, has an inflated opinion of themselves, is overly self-confident, brags about their money, appearance, acquaintances, demonstrates a pretentious manner of speaking as if they know everything in the world, tries hard to impress.”;
- “In general, talks a lot and tries too hard to look cool”;
- “Constantly makes negative comments about other people”;
- “Doesn't smile, has no sense of humor, or what he finds funny isn't funny to me, and vice versa”;
- “The person clearly has low self-esteem, looks defeated, gloomy, desperate”;
- “Stinginess — he expects us to split the bill in half or lets me pay the bill”;
- “Poor hygiene — bad breath, rotten teeth, unpleasant body odor”;
- “Sleazy comments about my appearance, sexist remarks, rudeness”;
- “Completely different views on key issues”;
- “Inability to communicate”;
- “Lack of exclusive interest in me — when we are together, he/she looks at other men/women, does not listen to me, does not ask questions, sits with his/her head buried in his/her phone, seems bored”;
- “Constantly interrupts when I speak”;
- “Too pushy, persistent, prone to manipulation”;
- “Before me, he/she ‘hit on’ too many different women/men.”
In the second stage of the study, over 700 other people were asked to select from this list what they considered to be the most repulsive behaviors and character traits that hinder successful flirting.
The new list included: sexist comments, poor hygiene, lack of exclusive interest, different views, vulgar language, low intelligence, narcissism, lack of humor, low self-esteem, excessive closeness, unattractive appearance, and stinginess.
The top three most off-putting traits are sexist comments, poor hygiene, and a lack of genuine interest in the person you are on a date with. Physical boundary violations, unattractive appearance, and stinginess follow these.
It is worth noting that, according to the survey results, women and older people are more sensitive to all these factors than men and young people.
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